something is majorly up with the formatting! things are indenting and outdenting themselves! this never happens on my other blog(s)!!! how do i fixxx it! RE: The Big THREE-oh – i don’t want everything going in and out in the list! raaaaa!
Daily Archives: July 19, 2012
Life…
So there’s soooo many things going on in life and it’s so hard to strike a balance. You’re only young once and there’s things that if you don’t do now the opportunities may pass you by. Juggling responsibilities is hard enough, but in between keeping all the balls in the air, if you wanna do a little square dance too – chances are something’s going to fumble. Is that where prioritising comes in?
true story!
You’re dating, you’re partying, you’re living it up, but you want to settle down. You have a stable job and are financially okay enough to support at least your self and perhaps another. You want to study. You want to have kids. You can’t leave it too late. You’re a banker boy and your crazy work hours leave little time for relationships and socialising. You’re a doctor and picking a speciality is hard because you can’t ignore that there’s other aspects of life that demand attention. You’re an artist and your passion is spilling bottles of pigment onto canvas but you need the money to survive.
It’s no wonder that in this day and age stress levels are through the roof. You’ve just about finished studying at 22-23, you want to date, you want to settle down, but hey you want to study some more, and progress in your career. Wait you’re going to be thirty soon – *body clock ticking* – you need to have a baby. Just the thought of it makes my head spin. If we thought a day whizzes by, sometimes they can’t whizz by fast enough. Years are not enough. 365 days… it’s nothing. Not when I’m planning my future. In five years i’ll be thirty and at the pace I’m going at my timeline won’t work! *freak out*
*DEEEEEEP BREATH*
Do I just do my best, take a breath, trust that it’ll all work out and let the universe handle it? Just have faith that in the end it’ll all make sense, my journey? If I don’t try my best I’m afraid I may end up in the wrong place. I don’t want to have myself to blame. But there I go again, thinking about it, more stress.
*facepalm*
The thing I have come to realise is that life waits for no one. When that moment comes and in a dramatic, or not so dramatic flash, your memories start to roll, I bet it’s your family, loved ones, the times you laughed, and all that jazz that flashes before your eyes. Not the college paper you scrambled to hand in or the pay raise you got, neither will it be the meeting you missed valentine’s day for or the patient you saw while your family waited for you at the dining table.
So I think THAT pretty much clears it up. Prioritise. But wait… you need the one for the other. If you don’t have some form of stability – financially – you can’t have the other good stuff too can you? Or are we just spoilt? Why do we kill ourselves to make a living and then die working? What kind of life is that? Something to think about… I shall continue this tomorrow so that I stop rambling round in circles!
*get lost in thought*
The big THREE-oh!
I’ve got a long way to go before I see THIS day, but still… good read! AND i love lists!
Enjoy the good things in life when you’re young. Like the bitter sweetness of young love.
By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can’t imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
CHECK!
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
I guess my beanbag doesn’t count!
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
Hm…must invest in a designer dress that’s chic and sophisticated yet sexy and glam!
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
check, check and…check!
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
meh…I don’t know if i’ll ever see THAT day!
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
ohhhh yeah!
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
Realisation – check, money…not so much!
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
Check to all three!
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
Check!
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
Yep! Lucky enough to have those!
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
Haha! *makes note*
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
Ticket to go see Madonna live in concert?
13. The belief that you deserve it.
Oh HELLS yes, after the year that I’ve had?!
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
I’m trying to get those in order now… but the exercise one is on n off.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
Check, check and I’ll work on the rest!
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Sometimes, this is how I feel and though I can’t explain it in words, this picture says it perfectly. I feel THAT happy.
By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
Oh…yeah – how can you fall in love WITHOUT losing yourself? I guess you shouldn’t lose who you are, but you should lose yourself in the feeling. Isn’t that half the fun? And why it feels so good? Cos you give everything you have… and then some?
2. How you feel about having kids.
Can’t wait. As long as it’s with the right person! The more the merrier, as long as we can afford to give them a good life.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
Yeah, these are all things I’m going to have to learn. Serious confrontation issues…
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
I believe with the right support, I figure these things out!
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
Let’s come back to this later, shall we?
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
um…I have time!
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
Been there, done that, and actually, quite enjoyed it.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
Mine. I know where to go, even though I don’t always end up there.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
Sigh…I guess.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
noooo! I also am in constant denial of change.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
I believe that’s something I’m aware of, but it’s probably also something that changes as you grow up.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
This is true. Even if your best friends with oncologists, dentist, pulmonologist and other doctor types!
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
Figuring this one out slowly…
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
Raaaa!
15. Why they say life begins at 30
Can’t wait to find out! Or no… I can :D
This one’s just funny! I don’t really believe it!
What’s on your personal list of things to have and know — and possibly do — before turning 30?
List excerpted from Glamour‘s “Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know By The Time She’s 30.”
Met the Parents!
So in hindsight – after my first post – “meeting the parents” (and after having actually been through it) – I’ve come to realise no matter how much you plan you can’t really direct how the meeting is going to go. The dos and don’ts are good to go over, but since it’s a first time affair you’re not sure exactly what kind of people they are. What are topics you should steer clear of? Politics and religion I’d say – cos you don’t know what their stance is on those subjects and things can get personal. It’s also best not to argue too much to get your point across, after all, this is the first time you’re meeting them.
Another thing to perhaps keep in mind is how to involve everyone in the conversation. Make sure you’re talking to each other as well so that the family can see why you’re so great together. THAT is the main reason you want to be together right? So make sure your chemistry is visible, let the love come across. No need to get handsy and be staring into each others eyes or being flirtatious! Just being yourselves is probably plenty!
If the hosts have gone through the trouble of painstakingly setting out some goodies and tea for you, DO let them know you appreciate their effort by eating (at least a little bit) and thanking them for going to such lengths! I think I’ll keep adding to this as I go along and find out more…!
Whatever you do… don’t do this!
Meeting the Parents!
So boy meets girl. They do that hot and cold dance, they playfully sail along the flirtatious phase and before you know it they’re madly in love and seriously considering monogamy. Unfortunately it’s not so simple, for a lot of boys who meet girls to just slip a ring on a finger, mutter a few sincere words and tie the knot. Nopes! They must jump through hoop after hoop till not only the girl, but her family, friends, and loved ones are just slightly convinced that he is suitable, if not perfect, for their little girl. So what must boy know when he’s getting ready to meet the parents? And the family?
Let’s think Dos and Don’ts!
Do…
Be confident!
Bring something
Be punctual
Practice your table manners (if invited for a meal)
Be polite
Be interesting & interested
Be on your best behaviour
Dress well
Offer to help out if you see others doing things
Keep conversations pg
Compliment, but not excessively (once or twice should be enough)
Thank them for taking the time out and having you over
Don’t…
Get too handsy!
Be too aggressive
Come empty handed
Crack offensive jokes
Stuff your face (if invited for a meal)
Bitch your family out
Dress too casually
Do anything TOO crazy
Be too familiar/comfortable
Bring booze
Act like you know more than you do
Forget to have fun!
Where I gathered some of this wisdom from…
An interesting and funny article: http://buquad.com/2010/01/25/meeting-the-parents-dos-and-dont-for-the-collegiate-significant-other/
And another one: http://www.29secrets.com/sections/relationships/dos-and-donts-meeting-parents
I wonder if girls get more nervous than the guys… ! All these (above) articles are written by girls!
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